On Negging: A Definition

“Low-grade insults meant to undermine the self-confidence of a woman so she might be more vulnerable to your advances. This is something no decent guy would do. They say that the assholes get the girls, but I can spot negging a mile away and I reject these fuckers straight off.” – Urban Dictionary, MadamexXx March 01, 2009


“The problem with negging (whether it’s done as part of formal PUA technique or not) is that it’s rooted in men’s suspicion that too many women think too highly of themselves.” – Jezebel, Hugo Schwyzer

Negging is pick-up artist bull, but I’ve noticed (often female) store clerks do it as well. All in all, I’m done with this reductive out-only-for-myself way relating to an other.

For it is not only the targeted female person who is demeaned by this behavior. The pick-up artist, the clerk are also cheapened and disconnected from others by their behavior. They may not notice or care, but eventually they do seem to wonder why Nice Guys™ finish last. Though, of course, rather than being truly nice they are only working a script.

Sadly, it is not even a script of their own devising. Instead, it is so copied and not that interesting.


Alison Bergblom Johnson

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